NTR Game Storyline/Psychology Resources

[Steve Carter]

I didn't know where to post this, but I've seen a lot of games struggle with the psychology of NTR in their cuckold games. I've found some podcasts that discuss the real-life lifestyle, and I think it would be worthwhile for anyone making a game to check these out.

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[its_not_real]

As someone who has real life experience with a cuckolding lifestyle, I can not emphasize strongly enough how correct you are.
95% of NTR games I have played has zero clue how to make the psychology of a NTR relationship "realistic", usually going from 0 to 100 in 10 seconds...

For example, the extremely fine line you as a couple have to walk to NOT loose respect for the relationship.
I can't remember where I found it, and can't find it on my computer now, but there was a pdf me and my significant other read when starting experimenting with hotwife/cuckolding. Explaining things absolutely NOT to do and warning signals to look out for etc (written as a "guide" for hotwifes).

One thing for example:
As a hotwife in a cuckold relationship it is VERY common to fall in love with the bull, and when feelings start to arise, the downfall of your "normal" relationship has alrady begun. It's natural that: sex > feeling > complications.
There are a few ways to combat this, but my point is, I don't think I have EVER seen a vn or game even mentioning this part of a NTR relationship.
The amount of breakups in a NTR relationship is like 80-90% (yes, there has actually been research done in the topic, the pdf linked to it, god damn it I cant find it again)

Fear not though, I am working on a VN where I take personal experiences and create a story where the couple actually love each-other and try to figure out how they can use kinks to spice up the relationship, all in a way that could potentially happen in real life...

 

[Ogolov]

I think there is a misunderstanding here. NTR and cuckolding might look similar on the surface, but they’re actually pretty different in how they play out and why people are into them.

• Cuckolding is all about consensual humiliation—the guy knows what’s happening, usually enjoys it, and sometimes even sets it up. It’s more about power dynamics, submission, and getting off on the idea of someone else being with their partner.
• NTR (Netorare), on the other hand, is all about betrayal and emotional pain. The protagonist doesn’t want it to happen, but they’re powerless to stop it. The whole appeal is the drama—that gut-wrenching mix of jealousy, heartbreak, and helplessness that some people find weirdly addictive.

Basically, cuckolding is a kink where the guy is into it, while NTR is a story-driven experience where the guy is suffering. Some argue cuckolding is a type of NTR (netorase—where the guy willingly lets it happen), but if the dude is enjoying it, it’s cuckolding, and if he’s devastated and powerless, it’s NTR.

 

[its_not_real]

I think there is a misunderstanding here. NTR and cuckolding might look similar on the surface, but they’re actually pretty different in how they play out and why people are into them.

• Cuckolding is all about consensual humiliation—the guy knows what’s happening, usually enjoys it, and sometimes even sets it up. It’s more about power dynamics, submission, and getting off on the idea of someone else being with their partner.
• NTR (Netorare), on the other hand, is all about betrayal and emotional pain. The protagonist doesn’t want it to happen, but they’re powerless to stop it. The whole appeal is the drama—that gut-wrenching mix of jealousy, heartbreak, and helplessness that some people find weirdly addictive.

Basically, cuckolding is a kink where the guy is into it, while NTR is a story-driven experience where the guy is suffering. Some argue cuckolding is a type of NTR (netorase—where the guy willingly lets it happen), but if the dude is enjoying it, it’s cuckolding, and if he’s devastated and powerless, it’s NTR.

You are correct, I used the wrong wording, I should not have used NTR in my post.
I am not going to go into it, but part of MY kink as a cuck IS the idea of betrayal, there are a TON of different variants of cuckolding.

As an example: I can KNOW that my partner might have sex with someone else, and part of our "agreement" is that SHE has the right to choose to tell or not before hand, OR it can be text message with an image letting me know what is going on "right now".
As I said earlier, we do this to spice up OUR KINKS, does not really matter if those kinks has an exact word for them or not. How we deal with that is we do it in periods, letting our relationship be the main anchor for us.
Heck, there can be months where we just live in a "normal" relationship having "normal sex"...

Therefore I always find the "aCtUaLlY" about NTR vs cuckold to be a bit silly (not to disgrace your opinion about the topic, we all have different opinions ) I prefer to speak from personal real life experience...

TBH, if NTR is something happening in a relationship, there IS NO relationship, there is only a couple where one of them is cheating.
In a cuck/HW relationship, there IS a relationship, the question is what methods the couple is using to keep the relationship "healthy"...

 

[Ogolov]

You are correct, I used the wrong wording, I should not have used NTR in my post.
I am not going to go into it, but part of MY kink as a cuck IS the idea of betrayal, there are a TON of different variants of cuckolding.

As an example: I can KNOW that my partner might have sex with someone else, and part of our "agreement" is that SHE has the right to choose to tell or not before hand, OR it can be text message with an image letting me know what is going on "right now".
As I said earlier, we do this to spice up OUR KINKS, does not really matter if those kinks has an exact word for them or not. How we deal with that is we do it in periods, letting our relationship be the main anchor for us.
Heck, there can be months where we just live in a "normal" relationship having "normal sex"...

Therefore I always find the "aCtUaLlY" about NTR vs cuckold to be a bit silly (not to disgrace your opinion about the topic, we all have different opinions ) I prefer to speak from personal real life experience...

TBH, if NTR is something happening in a relationship, there IS NO relationship, there is only a couple where one of them is cheating.
In a cuck/HW relationship, there IS a relationship, the question is what methods the couple is using to keep the relationship "healthy"...

Hey, I totally get what you’re saying, and I just want to make it clear that I wasn’t trying to be a know-it-all or nitpick terminology. I was mostly just explaining why some people might go into NTR games expecting one thing and not get the experience they were hoping for.

For me personally, I enjoy NTR games more for the narrative experience—the drama, the tension, the emotional highs and lows—rather than as a kink. One of my favorite NTR games is NTRPG2 because it tells a really compelling and tragic story that pulls you in. It’s not about getting off to the betrayal itself, but more about how it builds tension, like watching a well-crafted tragedy unfold.

I think of it kind of like horror games—people love playing Resident Evil or Silent Hill because they enjoy the fear, the suspense, and the adrenaline rush, but that doesn’t mean they’d actually want to be chased by monsters in real life. NTR games can work the same way; it’s about experiencing those emotions in a controlled, fictional setting, not because you’d want it to happen in real life.

I totally respect that you prefer to speak from personal experience, and I find it very interesting to hear different perspectives on this stuff. No hard feelings at all, I just wanted to share my take on why some people (myself included) enjoy NTR in games but wouldn’t necessarily be into it in real life.

 

[its_not_real]

For me personally, I enjoy NTR games more for the narrative experience—the drama, the tension, the emotional highs and lows—rather than as a kink. One of my favorite NTR games is NTRPG2 because it tells a really compelling and tragic story that pulls you in. It’s not about getting off to the betrayal itself, but more about how it builds tension, like watching a well-crafted tragedy unfold.

Thank you for the tip, will absolutely look into that!

I think of it kind of like horror games—people love playing Resident Evil or Silent Hill because they enjoy the fear, the suspense, and the adrenaline rush, but that doesn’t mean they’d actually want to be chased by monsters in real life. NTR games can work the same way; it’s about experiencing those emotions in a controlled, fictional setting, not because you’d want it to happen in real life.

Let me give you a little insight. This is true not only in games, but FANTASIZING and role playing such things in real life is AMAZING (for us)!
So yes, that is EXACTLY what can be going on in a cuck/hw relationship, you really nailed it.

I totally respect that you prefer to speak from personal experience, and I find it very interesting to hear different perspectives on this stuff. No hard feelings at all, I just wanted to share my take on why some people (myself included) enjoy NTR in games but wouldn’t necessarily be into it in real life.

No hard feeling from my side at all. I understood what you meant!
I am VERY aware that primarily MY kink as a cuck is, well, not looked upon very favorably, and also very often used as derogatory word towards men... Kink shaming...
I am not a big fan of labels in general tbh, not for women, neither for men (or any other preference for that matter, just let people be ppl ffs)

Edit
I watched the YT video now and yes, that is a very good dive into the reasons and feelings (and history) about these things.
I highly recommend a watch if you are interested in the psychology behind it. Interesting and knowledgeable people talking about the topic.

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[Steve Carter]

I think there is a misunderstanding here. NTR and cuckolding might look similar on the surface, but they’re actually pretty different in how they play out and why people are into them.

• Cuckolding is all about consensual humiliation—the guy knows what’s happening, usually enjoys it, and sometimes even sets it up. It’s more about power dynamics, submission, and getting off on the idea of someone else being with their partner.
• NTR (Netorare), on the other hand, is all about betrayal and emotional pain. The protagonist doesn’t want it to happen, but they’re powerless to stop it. The whole appeal is the drama—that gut-wrenching mix of jealousy, heartbreak, and helplessness that some people find weirdly addictive.

Basically, cuckolding is a kink where the guy is into it, while NTR is a story-driven experience where the guy is suffering. Some argue cuckolding is a type of NTR (netorase—where the guy willingly lets it happen), but if the dude is enjoying it, it’s cuckolding, and if he’s devastated and powerless, it’s NTR.

There's no cuckolding tag as far as I know, so for the purposes of this site, NTR and cuckolding get clumped into the same thing. In my personal definitions, NTR isn't an act, it's a feeling. It describes the feeling of being betrayed, nothing more. In and of itself, it doesn't describe where that feeling came from. Cuckolding is an actual thing that you do. It does not describe the feelings one feels while committing the act, it is just the act that is committed. So how I think of it is along the lines of "Me and my wife practice cuckolding, and while I was being cuckolded, I experienced NTR." Cuckolding is an act that is performed, and during that act, a whole bunch of different experiences can occur, one of which is NTR. Along the same lines, NTR isn't something you do, it is something you experience. Much in the same way you say, "Me and my friend played a game, and while we were playing the game, we had fun." Cuckolding = playing the game and NTR = having fun in this scenario. I understand that makes defining what one may experience in a game more complicated, but defining the terms like this makes it much easier for me for analysis purposes.

A new term that I came across while reading some of this stuff is "compersion", which is the non sexual feeling of joy that comes from the happiness of others, even if that person's happiness doesn't directly benefit you. This comes up a lot when discussing long-term cuckolding relationships. Those involved in cuckolding relationships often refer to this feeling of "compersion" as "next level love" or "a higher form of love". To the people in the cuckolding relationship, the knowledge that the cuck is experiencing compersion makes the female feel more loved than she may otherwise feel in a more traditional relationship and receiving this "unconditional love" is usually the main motivating drive for the female in these relationships. The cuck also usually does not feel this feeling of compersion exclusively, and it is often mixed with other emotions, some of which may not be as positive (such as NTR). Traditional relationships are seen as more transactional by comparison, where each person in the relationship is doing something simply for the direct benefit of the rewards they receive for doing it and not due to the compassion they feel for their significant other. While many outside the relationship see the cuck as inferior to the bull, the cuck and his cuckqueen understand that the bull is unable to give the wife the loved feeling the cuck can through compersion (usually, the cuckqueen understands this more than the cuck since they are the ones actually receiving the gratification from the compersion). Many times the cuck isn't fully unaware or just unaware of the full significance of the gratification the cuckoldress receives despite being described to the cuck by the cuckoldress as they should have healthy communication in their relationship for it to work. I remember some interviews I listened to where two cuckoldresses were talking about how their cucks will express anxiety about how they are sometimes afraid that their queen may end up falling in love with the bull and leave the cuck for the bull, and both cuckoldresses kind of laughed and talked about how stupid that anxiety is. What the cuckoldresses get from the bull is fairly easily replaceable, but getting what they want from the cuck is far less replaceable. I think this is important to understand when making any kind of NTR/Cuckolding type game.