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That’s actually a very personal boundary and really depends on how a couple defines ‘sharing.’ For some, starting early might indeed feel like borderline cheating, while for others, it’s just part of the agreement. Same goes for sending pictures—some might see it as a way to build excitement, while others could feel it leans into a cuck dynamic.The sharing route I do have a question and I know I'm splitting hairs here and will likely depend on the person in that scenario
So with it just being just threesomes , but if she's starting early doesn't that then become some what borderline cheating ( again why I said depends on the actual males view )
Then by texting him with photos of her doing stuff and that they are waiting doesn't that become somewhat cuck like ( again depends on the male)
Now I'm not bashing the path or anything and depends on the context around starting the sharing
But I know I'm clutching at straws hence why I've floated the idea rather than being out and out it is
Like for example if it was me in that situation I would only expect it to be threesomes no solo fun that builds into a threesome after I get home from work again this is where it boils down to what the exact context of the sharing is , now back to my example personally I don't know if I would feel cheated as I've never been in the situation so it would be one of them I wouldn't know how I'd actually feel till it happens , but on the other side I would imagine I wouldn't be particularly impressed that stuff was happening without me there as then it's not really sharing at that stage haha
Honestly this a stemmed from a random thought and thought fuck it let's see what tony thinks haha
It’s an interesting discussion because it highlights how different people interpret this kind of arrangement. Like you said, it all comes down to context and the rules that are set beforehand. As long as both partners are comfortable and on the same page, that’s what really matters. And regarding your example—yeah, sometimes you don’t really know how you’d feel about something until you’re actually in that situation haha.
Also, in a way, ‘sharing’ seems quite similar to an open relationship, just with more defined rules. And that’s where the tricky part about cheating comes in. If the agreement is for certain things (like only threesomes), but then one partner starts doing things solo, it could be seen as crossing the line. On the other hand, if both partners agreed to something in advance, then technically it’s not cheating, even if it might look like it from the outside.
It’s almost like a contract—if both sides stick to the agreed terms, it’s fine. But if one person starts feeling like the other is going too far, then there’s a problem, even if no official rule was broken.