This is a great explanation - thanks! I would say I too only want to see women in superior positions, which is why I share your dislike of futa, (it's so overly-done and they always use their male organs to dom anyone...) but when the protagonist of a game is female I tend to put myself in their shoes the same way I would if I read a non-erotic book with a female protagonist, (like, say, an Agatha Christie Miss Marple, not Hercule Poirot, novel) so I roleplay as being that protag myself and therefore still enjoy her being dommed, or even dominating, other women. It's not "self-inserting", as I am roleplaying as a different character, sometimes with vastly different opinions and beliefs from my own, (and especially if the female protag is dominant, in the sex scenes I tend to briefly change POV and imagine myself as her subs/slaves/victims so as to enjoy it) but I am trying to see the world from their perspective and immerse myself in the story of the game, so I suppose that's somewhat closer to self-inserting than what you are doing.
Funnily enough, this is also why, while I'm also fed up with futa, I can't play anything maledom and even the maledom scenes in a mostly femdom game, like Karlsson's Gambit, usually reverse-engineer the contents of my stomach,

as I get a strong disgust from even trying to roleplay as a sexually dominant male.
Vanilla, on the other hand, is to me a bit more like lezdom with a female protag is to you - it just does nothing for me, (only women being in a dominant position, either sexually or otherwise, do) so vanilla porn games or stories will just bore me to death most of the time, even if well-written. That's why I only consume femdom/lezdom games and literature and besides that just non-erotic content.
Anyway, I appreciate you sharing your perspective!
Agreed that this is very hot!
I actually often do the same thing and troll or roast these "chad" anti-femdom crybabies on various game threads, except I'm crazy and persistent enough (and too much of a debate bro for my own good) that it's usually them that give up!

Granted, I used to do this more a couple years ago when I was more active on f95, and now I tend to ignore idiots like that more often than not, but I still never delete the posts, as I quite like the idea that I'll piss some of them off even months or years after I made a post!
Anyway, it's understandable if you don't have the time or energy or simply don't want to engage with these people - thanks for sharing your perspective on femdom games once more and hey, maybe with me doing the same, others could follow.
In a way I'd find it an interesting psychological experiment if many of the people active on this thread share how they personally envision and enjoy femdom games,

as we'd probably get as many anwers as there are users... Does anyone else want to share?