Findom is a genre invented by women who would gladly just receive money—domination and humiliation are the least enjoyable parts for them. If they had a choice, they’d skip all that and just take the cash. I say this as someone who genuinely enjoys femdom myself, but if someone paid me enough, I’d be willing to humiliate and dominate others too—though I’d be doing it for the money, not out of real desire. This genre thrives on performance and illusion. At its core, it’s a beautiful scam.
This is false.
It can be addictive and likely 95% of findommes out there are just doing it for the money.
Some of us are actually into it seriously.
I am a professional dominatrix irl.
I have issues with consent. I want to know the person really wants me. If they don't really seem excited and happy, I can't get off. When I am being paid for findomme and begged to be sent money to ridicule someone I know they REALLY want it and it puts me at ease.
Plus, there's the power exchange. Someone can give you their time, show up to your house in a maid outfit to get fucked. Or to "clean" your house but they just want to get groped and fucked.
Some people truly want to serve and will just clean your house and be used as a footstool after and they are truly happy this way.
Some people feel loved and powerful and trusted and warm and fuzzy when another human is willing to lower themselves and be vulnerable so you can use them as a footstool.
And some just want to degrade a human.
Its different for everyone, but for me, personally?
My best orgasms come from masturbating while someone sends me money. Because orgasms are easiest when you can relax and let go of stress. I don't feel stress about consent. I know they want it.
And as someone who has anxiety about being productive cuz I grew up in poverty? My mind is always thinking I should be working or making money somehow.. and so it lets me feel at ease in that way too.
I always have a consent and safety talk with my finsubs and give them resources and safewords for addiction and help.
Honest truth it is hot to me and I get off to draining beta losers who want it badly.
I don't do it if it seems like its ruining their life, but I understand 95% of findommes will ruin a life for money.
Just saying not ALL of us are like that. Some genuinely enjoy it too.