The author is writing his story and we can only hope that it will end at least logically, no matter which ending he chooses. He probably had a complete script, which eventually changed and shrank, so some things look a little ridiculous. Everyone was amazed that Kirito asked to humiliate himself in this update. This event did not follow at all from the entire previous game. Was it possible to logically fit it in? Yes! We have Kirito's dreams. If, for example, the author had made 10 dreams for this stage, where Kirito sees Asuna with other men. After the first 3, Kirito would wake up again as if from a nightmare. And starting from the fourth dream, the players would be given a choice whether they liked the dream or not. And if you had chosen that you liked the dream, then Kirito could have woken up with a boner. And after 9 and 10 dreams, he could even cum in bed from excitement. And then now his similar statement would look logical... But it's possible to imagine such a plot move now, and it would never have occurred to me before. Therefore, we just wait and believe in the author)
perhaps this is exactly what he intended, but due to the reduction in development time, he abandoned this branch of character development (